Post Ice Storm Photos in New Hope

Here are the horses at my sister's farm. The larger of the two (white face) is Aibrean, which is Gaelic for April, and the other feisty girl is Crystal Beach.

I took a lovely St. Paddy's Day walk on the tow path that follows the Delaware Canal.

Here's my nephew Sean with awesome dog Chester picking up the mail.

Cover of White

For the past week, I've been in Philadelphia. After a year-long illness, my father died last Thursday night and I haven't begun to find the words to blog about it. Two days ago, it was 80-degrees here and it was easier on everyone, especially my mom, to think of him in the ground, spring with its promise of rebirth on the way.


Today, a late season ice and snowstorm hit the East Coast and we are all together in my sister's house in the northern suburbs. My California kids are thrilled for the beautiful snowed-in experience. There's a lazy, cozy feel, but also something unspoken. We are all aware of the extra finality of a grave being pelted by ice and covered with a 5-inch wet, heavy blanket of white.





The pictures show my sister's lovely home and grounds and also Alex and Brianna (13 years apart but two of a kind) engrossed in a computer game.

Books for "Bad" Kids -- Advice Needed

Each year at its Otter Award dinner, the Northern California Children's Booksellers' Association (NCCBA) gives out Literacy Grants to various organizations and people who work with kids, the goal being the promotion of literacy.


Months ago, I picked up an application and last minute on a whim decided to fill it out. I won! For many years, I've volunteered with an amazing organization called The Beat Within, which started as a single writing workshop in San Francisco juvenile hall and has since spread into juvenile halls and prisons all over the country. Each week, trained leaders help the "bad kids" put down their thoughts, ideas, poetry, drawings and life stories. The work -- You never know what to expect -- is then printed in a weekly newsletter that's sometimes 60 pages thick.

The best testimony comes from a participant named Nick: I thank the Beat Within for helping me find something that I didn’t know I had, which is the power to step up and be a good writer, which has helped me free my mind and soul.


You can read more about The Beat at www.thebeatwithin.org/news. I've also written on Salon.com about my own experience as a Beat workshop leader. Those essays are posted on my website at www.jillwolfson.com/journalism/pen.html and www.jillwolfson.com/journalism/mother.html

In my application, I said that I hoped to use the grant to make quality age and developmentally appropriate books available to incarcerated youth who do not have access to such material. I’m disappointed -- okay horrified -- by the selections on the prison bookshelf. It mostly holds well-used, poorly-written paperbacks in the action/horror/crime genres. Lord knows that those kids have enough of that negative energy in their lives. Also, over and over, I have been amazed at the positive response when I actually bring in a specific book for a specific student and give it to him or her. Many of these kids have never had the affirming experience of being handed a book and being told: “I got this with you specifically in mind.”

Sooooo yippee. Now I have $500!! to spend over the next 6 months in the children/YA department of my local independent book stores.


But help, I need lots of input on what to buy. As I said, the kids gravitate towards high action. I have nothing against a good horror or crime story, but I'd like to offer something exciting without all the gratuitous slashing, raping and gutting. They like poetry as inspiration for their own poems to girlfriends and for raps. There are a lot of minority students, no surprise given the hideous ethnic make-up of the prison system, so stories and biographies that reflect cultural diversity are must. Age range is 13-17; reading level spans elementary school through college. Lots of gang members, lots of kids with learning disabilities and histories of physical, emotional and sexual abuse. Honestly, I'd love to see them laughing while reading a book.


So please, post your suggestions. Books need to be in paperback. Hardbacks -- not the words, but the weight itself -- have be used as weapons. The kids have also opened their own skin using the edge of a cover. There's a metaphor there somewhere.

ON THE BOOK BUS

Janet of Capitola Book Cafe asked if I wanted to participate in this C-Span event this Friday night. Since I don't have TV, I've never seen the show but supposedly it's pretty popular or at least it runs again and again and again and again. Could be fun.

C-SPAN2’s BOOK TV BUS TO EXPLORE
THE MONTEREY BAY LITERARY SCENE
Bus to visit libraries, bookstores and interview local authors

WASHINGTON, D.C., (March 2, 2007) – C-SPAN2’s Book TV Bus, a 45-foot mobile television production studio, will travel to Monterey, Santa Cruz, Capitola, Sand City and Aptos as it continues its nationwide tour promoting Book TV's unique nonfiction book programming. The Book TV Bus, hosted by Comcast Cable, will visit libraries and bookstores and interview several local, nonfiction authors. A visit includes a tour of the state-of-the-art studio, a demonstration about Book TV programming and the opportunity to learn how a television show is produced.

Come see the Book TV Bus during the following dates and times:

Wednesday, March 7 in Monterey and Sand City:
1:30 - 3:30 pm Monterey Bay Books, 316 Alvarado St., Monterey
**Local author Zachary Shore, Breeding Bin Ladens, will be interviewed **

5 –7 pm Borders Books & Music, 2080 California Ave., Sand City

Thursday, March 8 in Salinas:
12 – 2pm National Steinbeck Center, One Main St.

Friday, March 9 in Capitola:
2 – 4 pm Capitola Public Library, 2005 Wharf Rd.
6:30 – 8:30 pm Capitola Book Café, 1475 41st Ave.
** Local author Jill Wolfson will be interviewed**
**Local author Michael Wolfe will be interviewed**

Saturday, March 10 in Aptos and Santa Cruz:
1 – 3 pm Bookworks, 36 Rancho Del Mar Center, Aptos
5 – 7 pm Bookshop Santa Cruz, 1520 Pacific Ave., Santa Cruz

Sunday, March 11 in Santa Cruz:
11 am – 1 pm Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk

About Book TV
Every weekend starting Saturday, 8 am ET to Monday, 8 am ET, Book TV airs 48 hours of non-fiction book programming on a variety of topics including history, biographies, politics, current events, and the media. Book TV features author interviews, readings, and panels at bookstores, libraries, and book festivals across the country. For more information, visit the Book TV Web site at www.booktv.org.

About C-SPAN
C-SPAN, the political network of record, was created in 1979 by America's cable companies as a public service. C-SPAN is currently available in 90 million households,
C-SPAN2 in 82 million households and C-SPAN3 in more than 12 million households nationwide.
Visit www.c-span.org for more information.
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Care for a Chicken Leg(ging)?

KNITTING PROJECT OF THE WEEK

Broken Hearts

Here it is, the dreaded post that I vowed not to write, the excuse post, the why I haven't written in a long time post, the lazy me, why-am-I-such-a-pathetic-poster-post, the when-I-can't-think-of-what-to-write, write-about-why-I'm-not-writing-post. It happens sometimes, not when nothing is going on, but frequently when too much is going on and trying to put words to it all seems like such a sham and such a bother. Father dying, weather changing, daughter getting ready to go off to college, chemo pending for Nancy, stuck in my writing, Helen's mother dying, every conversation I have carrying a weight that sits on my heart like an elephant.

Best to post pictures. I'm researching a novel about a teenage girl waiting for a heart transplant. The wonderful social worker at Lucile Packard Children's Hospital has given me such access to kids and to her own formidable experiences. Last week, I joined three children post-transplant as they got to hold their old, removed hearts in their hands.
I put on purple gloves as the pathologist placed Juan's former heart in my palms. It felt like a rubber ball. It looked like something my grandmother might have tossed into a stock pot.

I'm glad I have a long time to think about this experience, to try and understand what my characters will make of it.

SPRING CLEANING

Warning to you more delicate readers and those of a sensitive nature. This entry contains references to drugs, fecal matter, violence to the intestines, but unfortunately no reference at all to sex.


The year I turned 50, my life fell into chaos. Marriage disintegrated, career tanked, children went bonkers. So when my doctor mentioned that the AMA recommends a colonoscopy at age 50, I ignored her. I didn’t need one more thing – pardon the expression -- stuck up my butt. Same the next year and the next. But this year, I decided I was ready for the big probe. Life was more settled, and the recent death of a dharma sister was more than a little shove. Gail had died of colon cancer and as I helped prepare her body for the service – washing her thin, thin legs that had once held her up on her windsail – I promised myself that I would get the test. Damn, I don’t even let my kids miss a dental appointment.

Everyone assured me that the preparation was the worst part. On Tuesday, in a 4-hour period, I drank 4 liters of what tasted like polluted ocean water, feeling my stomach bloat and bloat until I thought I would puke up the stuff. Finally, release out the other end. My bottom burned. Preparation also required a 24-hour fast, which I actually looked forward to, hoping to experience a yoga high or a sensation of lightness and purity. Nope, I felt heavy and sloshing, like those miserable occasions when I’ve swallowed mouthfuls of the Pacific on my boogie-board. The only enlightening moment was the realization that I am a whiny, miserable patient; a spoiled baby who doesn’t like to miss a meal. At 3 am, I woke up nauseated and thirsty with a powerful headache, and spent the hours until morning tossing and groaning in bed.

At 9:30 am, I arrived at the outpatient surgery center, filled out forms and followed the nurse to my bed. The experience felt both strange and so familiar to me. I’ve been through so many doctor and surgical visits with my friend Nancy, but I’ve always been the “patient’s friend,” the name on the admitting slip as “person to contact in case of emergency.” Now, I – who have been blessed with great health; this was my first surgical experience – was the one slipping on the gown that ties in the back and the little booties, the one tucking my hair into the cap with the smiley face pattern. I had the odd sensation that I was dressing for Halloween.

In the bed next to mine, separated by only a thin curtain was one of those happy, jovial patients. He kept making the same joke in the same way. He told the same joke to every nurse, doctor and orderly who looked his way. He repeated the joke when his wife came in to visit and then she told the joke to a doctor. The joke went like this:
“I thought about putting a piece of paper between my butt cheeks. And on the paper, I wanted to write, `If you’re reading this, you’re performing the wrong surgery on the wrong person.’
Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
Didn’t one of the nurses think to tell him to shut the hell up because several people within ear shot are about to have their colons probed via the butt?

I admit that I was happy to hear the buzzing of an electric razor on the other side of the curtain. His surgery required shaving of the pubic area. His pubes will be growing in itchy and red when my colonoscopy is mere memory







That's Katie Couric -- not me -- smiling for her colonoscopy.



My head continued pounding. I didn’t want to complain to anyone because I have this fear of medical personnel, of being tagged as the annoying, problem patient. I have images of what they can do to you while you are “under” – the surgical equivalent of the chef who spits in the soup of the finicky diner. Please, please let them like me, and if they don’t like me, at least let them NOT not like me.

The OR nurse introduced herself, making hard eye contact, which I think she must have learned in some course in patient-nurse relationships. I finally decided to tell her that I had a throbbing headache and felt nauseated. Her smile froze as she said that she’s heard of such side effects of the preparation, but it wasn’t common. My smile froze. Please, please, don’t think I’m a bad patient. Then, she told me about the drugs I’d be getting. I was really looking forward to the drugs. I wasn’t going to be knocked out completely. I’d be in a twilight state. I’d hear everything going on around me. The doctor might ask me to move a certain way; the nurse might ask me to take a deep breath. Twilight state sounded lovely.

At 11 am, she administered the first dose of the fentanyl. At 1:30, I woke up in the recovery room. I bet they could have cut out my kidney and I wouldn’t have felt it. The experience made me feel better about being an organ donor. My surgeon – large in body and large in voice – gave me a thumbs up as he walked past. “Your colon sure has a lot of twists and bends. We really had to get in there. In and out, in and out with the probe. . See ya in 10 years.”

The nurse gave me some apple juice. I threw it up. At home, I slept the rest of the day. This book was not on my nightstand.

Branching Out -- The Finished Story

As promised, here's my "Branching Out" scarf. Lovely and not hard at all. You can't even see all the mistakes. I'm searching diligently for my next lace project -- maybe a shawl. Anybody have a suggestion for something gorgeous that won't give me carpal tunnel?

Bragging Rights

I received some great new book honors this week: HOME AND OTHER BIG, FAT LIES is a 2007 Green Earth Book Award Honor Book in the Young Adult Fiction category. The Green Earth Book Award honors books that celebrate nature and "promote an inspired understanding of the environment and an awareness of environmental issues." Chosen books encourage the concept of environmental stewardship and the importance of the role each of us can play in nurturing, protecting, and defending our environment. To learn more about the award, you can go to www.newtonmarascofoundation.org/programs/a_ge.cfm.Winners will be announced in April at Salisbury University in Salisbury, Maryland, during their Children’s Literature Festival.WHAT I CALL LIFE has been nominated for the 2007-2008 Pennsylvania Young Reader’s Choice Award in the Grades 6-8 category. Students across my home state will now read the 15 nominees and vote for their favorite. Winners will be announced in the spring of 2008. Additionally, all books will be displayed at the Pennsylvania School Librarians Conference this spring. www.psla.org/association/committee/mediaselectionandreview/pyrcamenu.php3.

Iron Poet

I was hesitant to go hear Robert Bly read at the Attic the other night. The whole Iron John, Iron Poet thing. The funny vest and huge mane of white hair. The whole he’s-more-than a-man-he’s-a-catalyst-for-a-sweeping-cultural-revolution thing. I get a little – okay a lot –judgmental, when a writer’s persona inflates to the size of a Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade balloon. It becomes hard to hear the words in all the hot air.
But Bly turned out to be a real treat, messy hair, strong stage presence and all. He felt very present with the audience, with the musicians and with the words themselves. There was a kind of Middle Eastern beatnik feel to the event. I felt especially drawn to his ghazals, a form of poetry new to me, but then I’m pretty clueless when it comes to formal forms. Bly explained that the ghazal, based on the Urdu form, usually contains from three to fifteen stanzas, and the poet can change the landscape in each stanza, leaping from topic to topic. The same single word ending each stanza ties the poem together. The whole effect is playful and wicked, simple in its complexity, wild within strict formality-- my kind of writing. Actually, my kind of everything.

I want to post one of the poems he read. I will when I find it.

More on Bly by local book reviewer and pal Chris Watson:

http://www.santacruzsentinel.com/archive/2006/February/12/style/stories/03style.htm

Do NOT Let Me Borrow Your Books

I found the perfect table outside at the Bagelry. The sun was shining, the coffee hot, the bagel shmerred. I had brought along a new book, My Name is Red by Orhan Pamuk -- new in the unopened, paid full price sense. Actually, it was a gift from a good friend, one of those no-occasion presents that came at the exact right time and made me feel loved and princess-like. I ran my hand over the cover -- Stunning! -- slowly opened without breaking the spine. At page 6, I gently placed the book on the table while I took a sip of coffee.

Shit! The page got wet. I swear I checked and the table was dry, but ....Why am I such a pig with books? I break the spines; I somehow manage to get ink, cream cheese, mustard, fill in your favorite food group on the pages. Long ago, I stopped borrowing books from anyone who doesn't owe me big time because I know -- I know! -- I'll never return it without some kind of stain or rip or smear. Library books are pretty much out of the question.

I once had a friend who was utterly appalled at the way I kept my books--tossed here and there, some covered with dust, dust jackets ringed with a coffee cup stain, spines broken, blotches of ink bleeding through a page. My friend had grown up very poor in Mexico and thought of books as privileges and luxuries, objects to be treated with respect. She was so disgusted with me. One day when I wasn't home, she appeared like the Book Fairy to dust, order and line up my books by size and color until the shelf looked like a movie set bookcase.

Are my piggish ways really a sign of disrespect? Or maybe, it's the biggest testimony to a book to take it into the bathtub with you, to jam it into your purse leaky pen and all, to fall asleep with it and crush its pages, to need to underline some sentence because if you don't you'll forget something that you desperately need to remember.

So, this is your official warning. Do NOT lend me a book, unless you don't mind having it returned with some remnant of me. Oink.

Lunafest

I just got in from attending Lunafest, a festival at the Rio Theater billed as films for, by and about woman with proceeds to women's center, women's cancer organization, etc. More like Depression Fest with films about a woman leaving her abusive husband, a Chinese woman poisoning her baby because the newborn was yet another girl, a woman with breast cancer who gets a mastectomy while her baby is still nursing and the baby screams her head off and ... ugh. I'm ready to get into bed and start eating a lot of rich, gooey comfort food.

There were a few lighter moments, including a short by Shaz Bennett who is an LA performance artist. By lighter, I mean the film brings together her cat, gerbils, sugar cookies and Bacon Bits and made me laugh even though it's basically about the death of her mother. If you need someone to share a deathbed vigil, Shaz might be a good choice.

I found the short film, Top of the Circle, here : http://medialab.ifc.com/film_detail.jsp?film_id=451

Okay, off to bed with me.

Cooking with Florence and Isa and Terry

When I was a kid, I was fascinated by TV cooking shows -- obsessed actually -- especially by one in particular. There were many Wednesdays when I faked being sick so I could stay home from school, blanket to my chin, cup of tea on my nightstand, to watch Florence Hanford's TV Kitchen. It was one of the nation's first cooking shows.

There was something so comfortably Philadelphia and still so otherworldly about Florence P. Hanford-- her tightly-controlled hair -- no strand ever getting into the food -- and constant fast patter, her seriousness about the perfectibility of a meal.

And the dishes she created! It wasn't that my mother was a bad cook; she was just such a predictable cook. Chicken, always broiled, on Mondays. Spaghetti and meatballs on Tuesdays, etc. Mom was also "modern" in that early 1960s sense, meaning that so many of her ingredients came out of cans and the freezer.

Not Florence! Chatting away with her viewers, Florence diced and stuffed and chopped and mixed and whipped and poured and rolled and used so many fabulous utensils that I never knew existed - lemon juicers and garlic presses and wire whisks. I practically swooned over her rubber spatula, the slurping, sloshing sound it made while moving viscous cake batter out of the metal bowl into the cake pan -- a pan that had already been buttered by Florence's confident and efficient hands.

Here's a typical menu that Florence prepared each week -- without ever burning a thing:

Rib Roast of Beef

Milk Gravy

Browned Potatoes

Peas and Carrots with herbs

Cucumber Tomato Aspic

Nippy Mayonnaise

Chive Bread

Chilled Fresh Fruit Cup

Wonderful Loaf Cake

I found this link, where there's an actual clip of Florence in action: http://broadcastpioneers.tripod.com/kyw/hanford.html

Plus, a link with actual Florence recipes, such as her All-in-One salad:http://www.ichef.com/recipe.cfm/recipe/All-In-One%20Salad%20Bowl/category/Salad%20Recipes/itemid/109991/task/display/recipeid/95255/recipecategoryid/61

There's also a tell-all interview with Florence in 2002, still living in the Philly area. She talks about the early days of cooking shows, how she had to use gelatin at 7 times the usual amount so her Jell-o mold wouldn't melt under the hot lights. I never suspected a thing!!!!www.geocities.com/bpofphila/hanford1.html

I never actually wanted to BE Florence. She was too old, too motherly. I wanted to grow up to be her assistant, the lovely young woman in wool skirt, cashmere sweater and heels, who walked the finished dish out of the kitchen and placed it on the perfectly-set table for the end-of-show presentation. Over the years of TV Kitchen, the girls changed. Invariably polite, Florence always addressed them by name. I so envied the Bev or Judy or Darleen or Barbara -- these slim-ankled, pert-breasted home ec majors -- who did the brisk walk, camera following, of taking the Skirt Steak Roll-ups to the table.

Enter ISA AND TERRY with their delighful baked goods. I am so glad to see this tradition of the womanly art of cooking continuing on the Internet. Now I want to trade places with Florence's tattooed, kick-ass spiritual granddaughters -- Isa Moskowitz and Terry Romero --the two culinary stars of Post Punk Kitchen, which can be seen on Brooklyn cable and right here on the Internet.

Thanks to my friend Susie who shares my love of all things domestic (except bathroom cleaning) for sending me this link. http://www.theppk.com/ These vegetarian, guitar-playing, fun-loving girls can really whip up a cupcake (and sushi and matzo ball soup sans the chicken).

Check out their show and recipes. Whip up something wonderful and then invite me for dinner. I'll even help walk the dishes from the kitchen to the table.

AT A PODIUM NEAR YOU

Book Passage, an independent book store in Corte Madera, Ca. has got to be one of the best places for a writer to hold a book reading. Before such events. I tend to get kind of cranky. Not only do I have to write the book, but I also have to stand before a bunch of strangers and talk about it. Despite a lifelong dread of public speaking, I’m getting a lot more comfortable with public readings. They should all be like my experience at Book Passage this Saturday. Despite the 10 am time slot (their usual time for “kid” events), I got a nice turnout, thanks to the store’s excellent publicity and my friend Kathy calling out all of her Marin County friends. Hannah, the young woman who introduced me, obviously read the book and was gracious and welcoming.

While reading sections from Home, and Other Big, Fat Lies, I kept an eye on the kids in the front row and was delighted to see them engrossed. The Q & A sessions was especially fun – from the third grader who asked the intriguing question -- “Do you like all of your characters?” -- to the woman from Oakland who asked – “Do you have a writer’s group?”, which emphasized to me how much I need some ongoing feedback as I make my way through this next novel. The group was lively, but small enough for me to ask a question that has me really concerned. My current novel-in-progress opens with a 12-year-old girl dying and her organs being donated. Is that too much? Would you read a book that stared with something so upsetting and graphic? I was thrilled to look at a row of 14-year-old girls and seeing their heads nodding in support of the idea.

As people came forward to have their books signed, my eye caught the eye of a middle-aged woman who was smiling at me. Something about her looked familiar, and for some reason, my mind leaped back to my high school in Philadelphia and came up with a name: Janet. I hadn’t seen Janet since we were both 17. She recognized my name in the Book Passage newsletter and wondered if it was the same "Jill Wolfson". I'm so glad she decided to come. We both definitely have more wrinkles and more gray, but I recognized her anyway. My Philly accent confirmed I was the right Jill.


Janet and I were never friends, but she was certainly part of my landscape at Northeast High. I remember her as being especially beautiful with a serenity that stood out in a sea of teenage chaos. Janet was popular – That enviable word! -- in a way that I never was. Class secretary, that kind of thing. As she complimented my reading, I laughed to myself about how – admit or not – this was part of every writer’s fantasy – maybe in some cases, the initial impetus to publish. To stand all grown-up and successful before the former high school princess who once seemed to have it all.

But of course, chances are that Janet felt as miserable and insecure in high school as I did. We hugged, exchanged contact information. I hope to get the chance to hear her own story – her 30 year-plus journey from an entrenched Jewish neighborhood to Marin of all places, a path that I’m sure is as interesting and compelling as the path our grandparents took out of the shtetl.



Book Passage offers an amazing number of literary events -- more than 400 each year - in both the Marin and San Fran. locations. www.bookpassage.com

What's Art Reading?

When I was a young-ish reporter writing a profile of someone, famous or not-so-famous, I frequently checked out the subject's bookshelf to get a quick "read" of them. Kind of cheesy, I know, but I figured it would tell me something if they had the complete works of Tolstoy rather than the Complete Set of Reader's Digest. Since those days, I've concluded that "you are more than what you read," just as I look back with a bit of embarrassment how my teenage self harshly judged others on whether they preferred the Beatles or the Rolling Stones.

Still, I find myself fascinated by what people are reading. Obviously, so do others, hence the list of "Books I'm Reading" on so many websites and blogs. Perhaps, you've been wondering what Art Garfunkel has been reading lately. I know I have. Turns out that Art is a passionate reader who's kept a list since 1968. His favorites? Plenty of Tolstoy and others, from the Tao Te Ching to Stephen King. http://www.artgarfunkel.com/library.html It's an intimidating list that makes me wonder just how many of these hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of books Art can actually remember.

The Big C

In today's news: "Cancer deaths in the United States have dropped for a second straight year, confirming that a corner has been turned in the war on cancer. " http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070117/ap_on_he_me/cancer_deaths


It definitely doesn't feel that way in my life. Two of the people closest to me are dealing with cancer right now. My dad, soon to be 86, has advanced lung cancer. My beautiful, wonderful, amazing close friend Nancy has been dealing with metastatic breast cancer for the past year and a half. I'm so glad that she started blogging about her experience. I don't know anyone who can write about wretched chemo and CT scans and the painfully exotic language of oncology with more honesty, anger, humor and full-blown insight than she does.

http://nredwine.blogspot.com/

As I read her blog this morning, I was pulled back into my childhood, a time when the word cancer wasn't even said aloud. Aunt Viv "wasted away." The closest the grown-ups came was referring to someone having "The Big C." When my mother first told me about my father's condition, she said, "The other shoe has dropped." My emotionally fragile Aunt Molly was never even told what her "sickness" was and my mother -- her sister -- frequently wonders if "not knowing" allowed her to work and socialize until she died. I don't think so. I just don't believe that innocence is any kind of bliss.

I have been around cancer a lot recently--talking on the phone to my parents, accompanying Nancy on doctor visits. But still. Still, sometimes when I say the word Cancer, I feel it heavy and uncomfortable in my mouth, like a naughty phrase that I let slip out.
Maybe I need to say it more often -- cancer, cancer, cancer, cancer, cancer, cancer, cancer -- in the mistaken hope that I can make it be just another word.

Branching Out

After making countless socks and scarves, I decided to tackle a new knitting project -- lace for the first time. I'm intimated, but my local yarn shop guru assures me that it's fairly straightforward and incorporates all the most common increase and decrease techniques. It will be especially challenging, since I'll be following a chart for much of it. Being a "word" person, I'm more comfortable with written directions.

If you want to knit along, you can find the chart on the web site of my favorite local knitting store:

www.thegoldenfleece.com/free_patterns/show.php?katalog=Leaf%20Lace%20Scarf

For written directions: www.knitty.com. Click on archive and in the pattern file, enter the name of the scarf, which ironically for my first lace experience, is called Branching Out.

I've uploaded a photo of the completed scarf from Knitty. I'm working with a silk-mohair mix in dark blue with highlights of yellow, red and orange.

Wish me luck.

Star with Hair

I was biking home from Wilder Ranch late today, enjoying the orange sunset against the steel gray surf, when I noticed a larger than usual number of people staring at the last bit of day's light, many of them with binoculars and cameras focused on the horizon line. Somehow I had missed the news that a comet was scheduled to put on a show in the western sky. Nearly 10 years after comet Hale-Bopp led to a strange suicide pact, another bright comet would be gracing the early evening sky.
I pulled my bike over to the railing and joined the crowd staring with expectation at the horizon line. According to the buzz, Comet McNaught would be visible any second very low in the western sky shortly after sunset . The night before, some said, it was bright enough that observers could see it with the unaided eye.

Yes! There is was, and then it was gone. After that glimpse, I don't think I've ever witnessed a more spectacular sunset, the sky turning a deeper and deeper orange until I felt myself practically vibrating under its spell.

A comet is a small body in the solar system that orbits the sun and at least occasionally exhibits an atmosphere and/or a tail — both primarily from the effects of solar radiation upon the comet's nucleus, which itself is a minor body composed of rock, dust, and ices. From the Greek word komē, meaning "hair of the head," Aristotle first used the derivation komētēs to depict comets as "stars with hair."

There are some terrific images at this site:

www.spaceweather.com/comets/gallery_mcnaught.htm

MORE TO READ

I got a lovely fan letter from Olivia Selzer, a high school teacher from Erie High School in Erie, Kansas. She just read WHAT I CALL LIFE and found it helpful in understanding the foster children that she comes across as a teacher. She also commented on my daughter Gwen’s list of favorite books that I have posted on my Web site, and offers some more suggestions. She writes,

Some books I have read just this year on the suggestion of a student that BLEW ME OUT OF THE WATER:

Anything by Carolyn Mackler, but her absolute best---The Earth, My Butt, and Other, Big, Round Things

The Rules of Survival by Nancy Werlin

Stuck in Neutral, and Cruise Control -- companion books by Terry Trueman

Silver by Norma Fox Mazer

Touching Spirit Bear by Ben Mikaelson

Thanks Olivia! I plan to read several of these. An invitation to all: Send me your middle-reader and YA favorites

THE SUCCESS OF FAILURE; THE FAILURE OF SUCCESS

For many years, my meditation practice was centered around Kannon-Do Zen center in Mountain View, CA. I so admired (still admire!) Les Kaye, the teacher there, for his straight-forward teaching style. Les has a shaved head and wears traditional brown robes, but he’s very much of this ordinary and extraordinary everyday world. While heading Kannon-Do, Les worked at IBM, maintained a marriage, raised children, grappled with his version of the traffic snarls and life snarls that certainly define my own life. Over the years, I’ve been so grateful for his simple teaching to “Keep showing up.”
I remain on the mailing list for Kannon-Do and receive the periodic newsletter. In the most recent one, there’s a transcript of a talk given by Les, entitled “The Problem of Success,” in which he makes this very intriguing statement: “I have come to believe that the fear of death is a result of a mind in panic over the loss of opportunity for success in a future that is no longer available.”
I’ve been mulling this over for a while now, watching my own fear and panic over letting success elude my desperate grasp.
I also laughed when I paired Les’s comment with a quote by writer Tillie Olsen who I blogged about yesterday. Tillie, an activist until death, wrote: “Well, I'm going to be one of those unhappy people who dies with the sense of what never got written, or never got finished”.
I love the crazy truth of these two seemingly opposite world views. But beneath the surface, I feel that Les and Tillie are actually talking about the same thing. At least that’s the message I get from two people who have earned their wisdom badges on the frontlines of life. I hear them telling me to let go of the desperate chase for success, but at the same time, I must aim for success, putting my heart and 100 percent effort into everything I do.
In this way, I’m sure to succeed, along with failing every step of the way.
The question to keep in mind: What is success?

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Book by Les Kaye www.kannondo.org/site/books/zaw.html